it MAY offend some people, but for others, it may be JUST what they need to finally ditch their excuses and start finding their results and THEMSELVES.
I’ve lost many friends on this journey, and you know what, that’s ok…..cause THIS is who I am, and THIS is what I LOVE. I won’t apologize for being true to myself and for helping others to discover self-esteem, confidence, and LOVE for themselves. There’s an unfollow and unfriend button on Facebook for a reason……but if you're here reading my blog, then you must be finding some value in what I have to share!
I talk to A LOT of people on a daily basis, many of whom are MOTHERS, either first time, or repeat offenders…..and many of them have A LOT in common but one thing stands out….can you guess what it is????
THEY’VE LOST THEMSELVES They have this incredible gift….this precious child who they devote their time, energy, and love to….but in the process, they often place themselves LAST. They either don’t have time, or don’t have energy when all is said and done for the day. TRUST ME…..I’ve been there and YOU’RE NOT ALONE. I hear so often from Moms that they’re lost. They feel relegated to their NEW bodies…..the one that’s still carrying excess baby weight from pregnancy. The one that has stretched out skin, saggy boobs, separated abs and is just COMPLETELY different from the one they used to have. YES, some things will never completely go back to normal, we just have to wrap our heads around that, BUT, that doesn’t mean that we can’t regain self-esteem and confidence. It doesn’t mean that we have to look in the mirror dreading the reflection……or crying over clothes that don’t fit….skin that gets tucked in, and this body that we REFUSE to acknowledge can TRANSFORM yet again.
I’ve posted photos before of my pregnant self and my fit self, to which I received A LOT of criticism, some saying “well, that’s not even showing me anything…..so ya, you got pregnant and now you’re fit……show me what you looked like after you gave birth and then I’ll take you seriously”….or I’ve had people comment on my current fit photos saying “ya, I be SHES NOT a MOM”……..and yes, these comments sting a bit, cause I KNOW how much work I’ve put into this and those people who shoot out comments without context, they don’t know me…….they’re just bitter and angry and have their own issues to get over…….
But you know what I say about these changing bodies…….I say, these bodies are vessels that are capable of miraculous things. These bodies can transform in SO MANY WAYS……..we can create babies and carry them for a whole nine months, all the while, morphing physically, emotionally, and mentally. We have these beautiful creatures to LOVE and CHERISH forever…….
We may have gained 20, 40, 80lbs during the process but that doesn’t mean that we can’t lose it again. It doesn’t mean that we have to give up and feel like we’ll always be in this “mom body”. Seriously, I come across a lot of women who tell me that they’ve completely given up. That they will be stuck in this changed body FOREVER……..and to that I say BULLSHIT. You’re letting yourself be “stuck” in that body, and until you’re ready to ditch your excuses, you won’t change. PERIOD.
We all have a gazillion reasons why we can’t eat healthy and exercise…..but I guarantee that for every excuse you/I have, there’s SOMEONE out there who has it ten times worse and THEY are making it happen. If you’re not ready to change that’s cool…….but realize that your complaints are going to stay there until you’re ready to change. I was stuck in the excuses before…..I was stuck in the nightly tears and the “tomorrows”, but until I actually got up to do something about it….NOTHING CHANGED….and YES I TOO went through the resentment and hater phase where I rolled my eyes at those “bitches” who lost their baby weight and looked amazing shortly after giving birth.
This post isn’t meant to make you feel shitty about yourself……it’s meant to INSPIRE YOU and MOTIVATE you…..to help you realize that YOU ARE WORTH IT MOM…..and now that you have a little person looking to you not only for guidance and the life lessons to help them be contributing members of society, but to help them shape their sense of self worth……their perception of “life” and don’t you want them to learn a healthy, happy balance? Today’s society is riddled with FAST FOOD, quick fixes, and FAKE images of PERFECTION……..if we SHOW them what healthy living is, it will be a normal, natural part of their lives. Do it for THEM if not for yourself.
We ALL have reasons why we can’t do it. I was a mom of a 2 month old and 2 year old living on the west coast, with my family living on the east coast, and my husband working away for 21 days at a time when I started. I didn’t have help, unless I paid for it. I was TIRED from being up with a newborn. I was LONELY and SCARED and DRINKING away my sorrows when I finally decided that I had to be a better version of me…..for myself…..for my girls…..for my man. I couldn’t give up on myself any longer. My switch clicked and I hope that yours will too.
My kids are now 2 and a bit and almost 5...........The journey continues. We moved even farther west, away from family, and my hubby still works away (10 day on, 4 home).
You don’t need to feel stuck in a body you hate. You don’t need to feel LOST. I want to help you re-discover yourself and experience the domino effect and positive benefits of getting active and eating healthy food. If I can do it, and so many others before us……SO CAN YOU!!!!!!!!!
THIS body transformed to bear children and NOW is RE-TRANSFORMED.....its a body that demonstrates a re-discovered self......a journey of possibility......a re-emergence. My most recent tattoo is a tribute to the self who has died....the lost one that I left behind......and a respect to the ME who has emerged. The ME with energy, passion, DRIVE.....the one who doesn't ass drag, nap, and complain so much anymore.
I pour my heart and soul into what I do......so for those of you who have been there and continue to be there......I APPRECIATE IT SO MUCH!
Here's to NEW BEGINNINGS MAMAS........I'm right there with you!